Monday, June 22, 2015

13 Signs You're a Daddy's Girl!








1. You believe that every single thing can be fixed by dad. A run down car in the middle of EDSA, a faulty bathroom shower head, a broken lamp—your dad is the best handyman. If he suddenly goes on a solo vacation to, like, Spain, you will be helpless. "DAAAAAD the aircon isn't working. I'm dying dying dying dying come home ohmygod."

2. You probably can't kill a cockroach. I am 25 years old and I have never killed a cockroach in my life. My dad is nearing 60, and he still kills them for me. At 3 a.m. Which is what true love is, basically.

3. He was there for all your big girl firsts. He was never too busy for parent-teacher conferences, class retreats, career talks, your first co-ed party, ballet practice, soccer games in the summer, that time when you played a sheep during your kindergarten play—he never missed any of those. Watching you growing up is The Best Thing Ever, because you are The Best Thing Ever

4.You're tough! Taekwondo, softball, fencing, basketball, soccer, ballet, jazz dance, gymnastics. You played a billion sports growing up, because his favorite thing in the world was watching his little princess kick ass. Also, he enrolled you in self defense class when you were 10, so you could defend yourself from the Mean People Of The World. Or, boys. Whatever.

5. But even if you didn't play sports growing up, dad's first gift to you was Mace spray. You have one inside your gym bag, one inside your everyday bag, and about ten more at home. You will never run out of stock.

6. He never fails to remind you that you are a child.

7. He is the first person you text when you have amazing news."Dad! Dean's List ako!" Or, "Dad! I got promoted at work!" Or, "Dad!Pahinging pera...hehehehe." Even if you don't live with your dad anymore, he is the first to know your life's breaking news. He is always a part of your life, because you want him to be a part of it.

8. Your dad makes the corniest jokes. But you laugh at them anyway. You actually don't know why you're laughing. But his jokes are sooo funny?? Why can't you guys get it?? I think daughters were programmed to laugh at every single thing their fathers say. It's, like, science or something.

9. Your dad loves all your guy friends, but hates your boyfriend. I think dads were also programmed to hate all manliligaws from day 1. It is like when you first introduce a new manliligaw to your dad, he immediately goes on Super Strict Mode, and becomes evil. "That's funny, he's usually so charming and sweet in front of my other friends..."

10. So you aren't allowed to date. Until you are 60.

11. You would never date anyone your dad didn't approve of. You don't get along with papa all the time, but you respect his opinion. Sometimes he'll randomly blurt out things at the dinner table, like, "That guy Mike is bad news. I think he should just be your friend." I don't know what it's called. But dads have this superpower where they can look right through people and immediately know if they are Good or Evil. Science should do a study on why dads know everything. It is creepy.

12. But then admittedly, no guy is ever good enough for you. Mike is too short. Charlie has self-esteem issues. Oh, Adam is gwapo, an owner of a start-up company, runs marathons, and visits the elderly on weekends? Yeah, there's still something off about him. "He has six toes, you can't date him." You will be single foreverrrrrr.

13. You know you can run the world, because you were raised by someone like him. Your dad is awesome. He is a superhero.





(article from: http://www.cosmo.ph/lifestyle/motivation/13-signs-you-re-a-daddy-s-girl)

Monday, April 13, 2015

Do we really need to be ONLINE..... ALL the TIME??






Often times we pay more attention to the responses and reactions of our Social Media followers than the actual feelings and reactions of the people we are with.... the people we shared that "MOMENT" with.... 

Let's go back to basic human interaction!

Monday, August 18, 2014

Let's Run Through the Rain!




Often times we get bogged down by the trivial things that come our way.  We fail to realize the perspective that maybe, just maybe, we need a little washing!

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Before There were Game Consoles & Gadgets....

This was our idea of fun...!




Thursday, February 6, 2014

HOW TO WORK WITH A RECRUITER ON YOUR JOB HUNT

(I am reposting this article by Liz Ryan (Human Workplace) posted in LinkedIN.)

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This time of year, we get flooded with phone calls in our office. Parents are calling because their kids are about to graduate from college and somebody -- either the graduating senior or the parent -- is getting anxious about the post-graduation job hunt. People who vowed to get out of a bad job in 2014 call us, too. Very often, they ask questions like these:

"Can you put me in touch with a good recruiter in my town? I want to get out of teaching and into sales."
"Can you recommend a headhunter to represent me? I graduated with my MBA last May and I haven't found a job yet."
"Do you guys know any good search firms in New York? I want to break into online marketing and social media."
There is a lot of confusion about working with third-party recruiters, also known as search professionals or headhunters. The three questions above illustrate that confusion.
Recruiters are hired by employers to find picture-perfect candidates to fill those employers' open positions. They're called third-party recruiters when they don't work for the employer organization itself, but rather work for themselves or for an independent recruiting firm. 

The vast majority of recruiters work on a contingency basis. That means they only get paid if they fill a job for one of their client organizations. Think about that - imagine that you only got paid when you made a sale. Some contingency recruiters collect a base salary or a monthly draw from the firms they work for, but lots of them don't. If they don't place any new employees for their clients in a given month, they don't get paid at all.

That takes nerve - and mojo! The standard commission for a contingency search professional is twenty-five percent of the new hire's first-year cash compensation. Cash compensation includes base salary and any bonus plan, but doesn't include benefits. If a contingency recruiter, Wiley, finds the perfect Office Manager for his client Acme Explosives and if the Office Manager gets paid sixty thousand dollars per year, then Wiley's commission is fifteen thousand dollars.
Good deal for Wiley, you might be thinking -- sure, but what about all the times when Wiley had fantastic candidates in the pipeline but his clients (employers) hired other people? In those cases, Wiley might not have been paid at all. On top of that, Wiley had to tell his candidates "I'm sorry, Acme hired someone else." A lot of people think it's easy to make big money as a contingency recruiter, and certainly a lot of those folks make very good money, but it is anything but easy work.
As in any profession, there are some tremendous contingency recruiters -- I have written about some of the folks I've worked with in my HR career, in previous columns - and some people who are not so great at what they do, and who mess up the reputation of contingency recruiters for everyone.
A much smaller percentage of search professionals work on a retained basis. That means that employers hire them or hire their firms to fill important positions on a contractual basis. Retained search firms typically get paid thirty-three percent of the new hire's first-year cash compensation. Rather than getting their full search fee when the position is filled, retained search firms normally get paid one-third of their fee when the search begins, one-third after thirty days and the final one-third of their fee when the job is filled.
Why would companies work with a contingency recruiter or a retained search firm? If you're hiring a VP of Engineering and you want to work through a search with one dedicated firm, knowing that you'll be in close communication and that the firm will be able to support you throughout the process (by virtue of the fact that you're paying them to do that, rather than expecting them to lob resumes at you in hopes that you hire one of their VP candidates) you're likely to choose a retained search firm. That's why retained firms generally work on $100K+ positions. Retained searches are always exclusive. That means there is only one retained search firm working on a given assignment.
Let's look at contingency and retained search firms again, from the candidate's perspective. If you're being represented by a contingency recruiter, your search guy might have other candidates in the pipeline for the same job you're applying for. We can't blame him for that.
He has to get paid, and if he has more than one qualified candidate, we can't expect him to say "No, I want to advance your resume, so my other qualified candidate will have to drop out of the running for this opening." That's crazy. That's not fair to the other candidate or to the employer. So, if you're job-hunting and working with a contingency recruiter, please don't get your feelings bruised if your recruiter suggests that you are not his only duck in the race.
When you're being represented by a retained search firm, there are guaranteed to be other candidates in the mix and all of them were sent to the employer by the same retained search firm. Recruiters call that group of candidates a 'slate.' They put a slate in front of the hiring manager and other hiring authorities in the employer, and see which person the organization wants to hire.
So, as a job-seeker, as flattering as it is to be represented by a Super Lofty Retained Search Firm that Only Handles Highly Placed Candidates, there is a downside. If you're working with a retained search firm your odds (on a probability basis) of getting the job may be lower than if you were working with a contingency firm!
This conversation should help illustrate that:
JOE, the client: So Anita, how are you doing on my Release engineer opening?
ANITA, a contingency search person: You know what Joe, I'm excited. I met a guy you have to meet.
JOE: Who is he?
ANITA: His name is Allen, and he's very talented and a terrific guy -- I think he may be just the person you're looking for.
JOE: When can I meet him?
Joe, the hiring manager, is in a hurry to fill this job. Why should Anita go out and beat the bushes for additional candidates if Joe is excited to meet Allen, the first candidate Anita suggests? If Joe and Allen click, then Anita's task is done, she gets paid, Joe is happy and Allen is over the moon.
Contrast this scenario with the retained-search 'slate' idea. A slate might have four to seven candidates in it. If you're one of those candidates, you'll have your chance to interview, but the whole process is set up as a comparison between the bunch of you in the slate.
Which process would you rather be part of?
The three callers we mentioned at the beginning of this column -- the three people who called our office looking for search firm referrals -- were all confused about another aspect of the third-party recruiting business. They didn't understand that search professionals don't typically represent new grads (even new grads with MBAs, unless their education or past experience is highly specialized and in demand) or career-changers.
Remember who pays a recruiter -- an employer does. That employer isn't going to pay a twenty-five percent fee to a recruiter who brings them a candidate they could have found on their own.
Recruiters are charged with doing the impossible, which is to say making a fanciful-bordering-on-delusional hiring manager's fantasy new hire come to life in the form of a living, breathing candidate. That's a monumental task. That's why recruiters specialize in people who look on paper and in person as though they were raised in a petri dish to perform the very job they're interviewing for. They have to be nearly perfect fits to work with a recruiter. Hiring managers won't pay search people to find candidates who don't fit the spec exactly.
That's why we are forced to tell the parents of new college grads, the graduates themselves, and mid-life career-changers that headhunters may not be the best, or even a viable, channel in their job-search strategy.
If you are a career-changer or a new grad, a third-party recruiter is likely not your best job search channel either. That's okay -- there are lots of other good channels for you. You can send Pain Letters and Human-Voiced Resumes directly to hiring managers. That's our favorite channel. We call that process STOP! Don't Send that Resume.
You can use your network to find a job, and you can use LinkedIn to make connections. There are lots of ways to get a job without working with a recruiter, but if you are a recruiter-suited candidate, by all means add a search friend or two to your job-search channel array!
If you don't know any search people, ask your friends for recommendations and use LinkedIn to find headhunters in your part of the world. Don't be offended if the search people you contact don't gush and coo over your background and your resume. They are busy. They are paid to fill openings for clients, not to provide free career counseling. They do what they can.
Don't be upset if a recruiter doesn't offer to represent you. Imagine that your recruiter is a Broadway talent agent. The talent agent might say to you "Look, you're very talented and I love your singing voice, but we just don't get a lot of calls for your type of performer." It's not personal. The recruiter is not going to be able to spend time with you unless s/he thinks s/he can place you in a job relatively soon.
Don't be afraid to reach out to recruiters, but don't kid yourself about what recruiters can and can't do for you. Remember that your price tag goes up by twenty-five percent when you get a job through a recruiter, versus your own approach to the employing organization. If your recruiter has a solid relationship with the client firm and has placed people inside it before, that could be golden for you. If not, you could actually lose out on a great opportunity because your connection with the recruiter prices you out of contention.
Keep your eyes open, trust your gut and vet any recruiter you meet just as dispassionately as he or she is vetting you. Remember that people who don't get you don't deserve you, and don't forget to fan your flame!

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Mental (Blog) Block

Time flies... it's been 6 months since my last blog post.  Sometimes I even wonder if 'blogging' is really for me.  I have much to say but when i sit in front of my laptop, either I end up shifting my view between my bullet point list and the screen OR scanning and posting on my Facebook page.  Sigh, there goes my thought bubble.

When I started this, I really just wanted to have a medium to broadcast my thoughts and personal opinions on matters, share my experiences and feelings. But lately, as I read more and more about this Digital Age and Social Media's impact and uses, I realized wouldn't it be better and worth it if my ideas and experiences are able to help and contribute to other people somewhere out there?  Now THAT's a thought......  if only I can get this mental block out of the way..........

Monday, January 28, 2013

RESUME READING ENTERTAINMENT: The Series!



It's back... the resume-reading entertainment... for your reading pleasure :)  

I'm moving this series into my blog, instead of the FB wall so that... wala lang, para maiba naman!  A lot of my FB friends have commented that they are now scared to send their CVs to me at baka ma-okray ko.  Pramis, these are all confi profiles and not for anything else, let these blunders be lessons learned.

If applying for a job, make sure this isn't what you write in your cover letter. Congratulations on your new baby, but I'm more interested to know skills aside from "facebooking" -- that's not even a verb:




A look back at the previous posts in Facebook:

(your resume should not look like your social networking site.  keep it professional no matter what role you're applying for)

(i hire for skills and experience, not marital status. so really, i don't need proof to go along with your resume)

(a candidate's response to my invitation for an interview...psychic ba sha to know the "unexpected things to happen"??)

(two-page resume with relevant skills and key experience are acceptable. you don't need to put in unnecessary info just to fill the space!)

(when applying for a role that requires communication proficiency, at least try to use the spell-check and grammar check when creating your cover letter.... yes, i really need patience!)

(when posting a picture in your resume, make sure you have the right background.  adult diapers and sanitary pads are not considered professional)


More often than not, it is best to keep your resume and cover letter simple and straightforward!

Monday, January 14, 2013

It's a New Dawn...It's a New Day... It's a New Year!

I am writing in Green font... according to some "fortune telling predictions", the color signifying abundance for the year 2013 is green.  Keeping my fingers crossed that this will indeed be a great year!

It's a new year....time to leave the bitter past, take the lessons learned and move forward.  Another chance for us to get things right.

Once again, time for cool changes!  I'm excited to find out, what 2013 will surprise me with!  Bring it on!!!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

PHOTOGRAPHY IN PUBLIC: Know Your Rights

With all the NAIA brouhaha between Tulfo & Claudine & Raymart, it would be interesting to know what your rights are regarding photography in public.  Saw this link from one of my FB friends and while it does not constitute a hard and fast rule, it would be a helpful guide, so read on (article lifted from: http://lifehacker.com/5912250/know-your-rights-photography-in-public )



Nearly every modern phone has a camera attached to it and subsequently more and more people are taking photos in public places than ever before. The shot might be as simple as snapping a picture of a parade or as tricky as recording video of a riot. Regardless of the reasons, the rules for photographing in public places are the same.
For the most part, your right to take photographs and video in public places in the United States is protected under the First Amendment under free speech. This includes snapping pictures of your favorite monument when you're on vacation or taking part in a little citizen journalism. It's not as cut and dried as you may think and it's good to know your rights and the caveats that come with them.

The General Rule: If You Can See It You Can Shoot It
Your basic right is actually pretty simple: if you're in a public place and you can see it, you can shoot it. This means as long as you're in a public location you can legally take almost any picture. However, if you're using a telephoto lens, parabolic microphone, or hidden camera to get a shot of a private property when you're standing on public property you might have an issue if someone on that property has an expectation of privacy. So, what constitutes a public place? Most places are obvious, a park, a street, a soccer field—these are unquestionably legal places to take pictures of anything happening. But what about all those Instagram photos of food you've taken inside a business? That's a little different.
Generally if a private property is open to the public (like a restaurant, retail store, tourist areas, etc) you are allowed to take photographs and video unless it is expressly posted somewhere on the premise that you can't. In most cases it's okay to assume you're allowed to take pictures and video in a shop that doesn't expressly forbid it. However, if a property owner (or store employee) tells you to stop, you have to stop. More importantly, use good judgement and assess the situation and environment before snapping pictures.
This also goes for citizen journalism. If you see an accident you want to record, public servant misconduct, or even TSA checkpoints, you can do so as long as you're not interfering with police or medical operations. As far as the Department of Justice is concerned you're also allowed to shoot video or still shots of police officers provided they're on public land. Videotaping police officers is still a tricky situation without a concrete ruling, but the courts have leaned toward protecting your right to film officers. 

Where and When You Get Into Trouble
As with most laws you'll find some exceptions to the rules. Photographing on any clearly marked private property is considered trespassing. As for public government property you're mostly okay, however you cannot take photos of most military bases or inside most courthouses. A few other big caveats exist as well.
Just because some places are public doesn't make them legal for photography. For instance, a bathroom is a public place, but people have an expectation of privacy in the bathroom, so photos are typically not a good idea. This is also the case with anywhere else people might expect privacy, including inside places like AA meetings or doctor's offices.
The same goes for photos of people in a private space where they have an expectation of privacy, even if you're on public property. So, if you can see in your neighbor's window from the sidewalk while they're showering, you can't take that picture, even though you're on public property (and you might want to tell your neighbor to close their curtains). The general rule is basically if you didn't want someone covertly taking a picture of you in a semi-private place, it's probably not a good idea to take your own picture. These rules may vary from state to state, so check local laws before you're labeled a "peeping tom." If you do get caught taking a photo you shouldn't or if you're accused of taking taking an illegal picture when you're in the clear your response should be about the same. 

What To Do If Someone Says You're Trespassing
First up, the easy answer when you're accused of trespassing: if you walk onto clearly marked private property without permission you're trespassing and you should stop taking pictures and leave. If an employee or security guard tells you to stop taking pictures because you're on private property, stop taking pictures. Things get tricky here, if no signs are posted saying you can't take photos but it's a public area, you're technically allowed, but it's up to you if it's worth the trouble to haggle over the details with a security guard. You likely have the right, but if you're questioned directly you should seek legal counsel.
Regardless of whether you're in the right or wrong, no one is allowed to take your camera away from you in a public place. Even if you're trespassing, the property owner and the police cannot have your camera (or film or SD card) without a court order. Which brings us to the last caveat, publishing or uploading photos online. 

Pay Attention to Where and What You Upload Online
Your rights for taking photographs don't stop when the picture is snapped. If you place those photos online or sell them the situation changes. While you have the right to take pictures almost anywhere, publishing certain photos might get you in trouble in civil courts. Thankfully, the distinction is pretty clear.
You can't use someone's likeness for commercial purposes without their express permission. This means you can't take a picture in a public place with recognizable faces and then sell it to Coca-Cola or a stock photo company (you can, however sell them to news organizations or use them for art). The same goes for many famous landmarks and some National Parks. You can freely shoot the photos, but selling them for commercial purposes may require a permit or additional fee.
You also can't publish a photo that paints a person in a false light. For instance, if you took a picture of me fake-punching Stephen Hawking with the caption: "Taken moments before Thorin punched Stephen Hawking in the face," I would probably want to take you to civil court (assuming I didn't actually punch Stephen Hawking).
Finally, you can't publish a photo that gives away private information about someone. This includes photos like the aforementioned AA meeting or doctor's office along with any other situation where a person has a reasonable expectation of privacy.
The last concern you should have is your own rights when you publish photos online. Some popular web services like Instagram require you to grant usage permission to Instagram when you upload pictures. This doesn't mean they get ownership of your photos, but it does mean they can use them any way they like. Other services, like Flickr, allow you to set who can and can't use your photographs. If you don't want to sell or make public any of these pictures make sure you're using a service that leaves all the rights in your hands and be sure to check out Creative Commons for an easy way to license your photos.


In general, the mantra of "If you can see it you can shoot it" will keep you safe from legal prosecution in the United States, but not all countries and states are the same so check out local laws before shooting. Finally, if you feel your rights are violated, seek professional legal advice. You can also print out attorney Bert P. Krages pocket-sized pamphlet so you always have a list of your rights handy.
Disclaimer: the above isn't meant as professional legal counsel and is meant to help you familiarize yourself with the basics of the laws of photography in public. If you're unsure whether you are on public or private property your best bet is check before you snap photos. If you're concerned about a specific case or situation you should contact a lawyer.


Thursday, October 6, 2011

STEVE JOBS: Apple's Creative Genius & Visionary





I woke up to receive bad news via text from Ms.B telling me that Steve Jobs had died. Thought it was one of those hoax text messages, unfortunately, Apple's website announced it. Sadness...*sniff*sniff*.... I was an Apple-Late-Bloomer. Didn't really appreciate Apple products up until I borrowed Labidab's 1st Gen iPod. After that, I was hooked..... I know Apple will still be there, but Steve Jobs = Apple... he's the core of it all, every product is there because of his crazy idea.... he's my role model of "thinking out of the box"!


*sigh* as Ms.B said.... he's as iconic as the Apple icon.

You (and your great mind!) will always be missed, Steve!

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Trying out BlogPress for iPhone

Got this new App from my SIL that would allow me to easily write blogs from my iPhone/iPad... So let's see how this goes!

BlogPress + Greenwich late lunch... Hmmm not bad.






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Tuesday, May 31, 2011

...MINI-ME MOMENT...


In recent years, it had become rare that I get to tuck Mini-Me to bed before he goes to sleep. Apart from the varying circumstances (either he's asleep by the time i get home or i fall asleep ahead of him...), it seemed awkward for him that i still "baby" him at bedtime. but tonight was NOT one of those nights! we spent a good 30-45 minutes lying side by side -- talking nonesense and laughing nonesense, before we said good night. haay, time flies.... *mental note: spend more laughing nonesense moments with mini-me"


"You'll Be In My Heart"

Come stop your crying, It will be alright
Just take my hand, hold it tight
I will protect you from all around you
I will be here don't you cry.

For one so small, you seem so strong
My arms will hold you, keep you safe and warm
This bond between us can't be broken
I will be here don't you cry.

Cause you'll be in my heart, yes you'll be in my heart
From this day on, now and forever more
You'll be in my heart, no matter what they say
You'll be in my heart, always.

Why can't they understand the way we feel
They just don't trust what they can't explain
I know we're different but deep inside in us
We're not that different at all

Don't listen to them, cause what do they know
We need each other to have, to hold
They'll see in time, i know

When destiny calls you, you must be strong
I may not be with you, but you've got to hold on
They'll see in time, i know, we'll show them together!





Monday, May 23, 2011

TIME FOR COOL CHANGES!

... i get these random thoughts so often but haven't really gotten the chance to write it down. sometimes i think why would i even blog about it and add up to the tons of byte-trash in cyberspace (who reads this anyway?? raise your hand!) Then again, this is a better venue of thinking-out-loud than literally talking it out loud (mas mahirap magsalita na walang kausap, hehehe).

i've recently quit my job from that company with the tagline "be brilliant together". it doesn't seem to enhance brilliance anymore, so it doesn't make sense to stay. it's not the work load that bogged me down but the never ending bickering and corporate politics. really now... for a small sized organization, the amount of politics, gossip, backstabbing and factions would give the PH government a stiff competition. it's crazy! work experience there had been like moments of roller coaster ride. i've been through the cycle of ramp-up, sabbatical, retrenchment, ramp-up, bench.... i joined when it was still a measly 200-employee headcount, i left with an ending headcount of 700ish. That should speak about what I have accomplished.

I'm gonna miss my girls (team) with their own quirky ways. I'm gonna miss the extra-curricular activities and themed-events of LEGO. I'm gonna miss my nice office space and the coffee-breaks with friends. But beyond that..
i was just relieved and happy to bid adieu! i could fill this space with my rants about management in this work place, but i choose to move on and let those who are left behind to discover the experience by themselves. it was fun while it lasted....

so here i am, not exactly a bum! i'm doing some contracting work. summer vacation is nearing end. my little nephews and dear ol' daddy had left for the US. i'm in the midst of transferring stuff to our new home in QC. Lots and lots of changes are happening. exciting times for the cool changes that are slowly falling into place.

Saturday, April 30, 2011

The One that (ALMOST) Got Away!


....i had one that ALMOST got away... but fate brought that one person back to me... :)

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The One That Got Away
Source: The Manila Times

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a long time partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of
giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest"What if?" you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will juststrengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live
with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away."